Realizing the Fear
The fear of what I can actually do. Listen to this … I got a booty call from an old boyfriend during my morning reflection! It was from Timing and all the baggage that came with it! … Stay with me here, I promise!
Today in my morning reflection, I realized I wasn’t a afraid of failing … but actually what fear came up is this … (an excuse of sorts, mind you).
“If I am so great at doing (insert craft or service here) why am I not already succeeding at it?”
Thriv was a LONG time coming (a good 3+ years before I actually started doing things to make it happen). And to be here at this point is a huge success in and of itself! BELIEVE me I am celebrating it too! In all honesty this isn’t even close to the “tipping point” for me and the visions for this community.
But I struggled HARD with even getting here.
I assumed I was afraid of failing. But I am actually really good at failing. And this is completely why I don’t see anything as a failure. After the flow of MANY ideas not coming into fruition and drying the tears that came along with it also came great growth from the process and experiences!
Fear of Letting Go
TRUST THE PROCESS!
SO this is what came up for me this morning …
During the reflection I started to question “Will I ever get there? Why am I not there already if I am destined to succeed?”
I am in full belief we are all destined to succeed. So why is it taking so long? And let me tell you, the road was looooooooong for Thriv. But the internet people say it’s shouldn’t be in fact it isn’t >>> wasn’t for them or their students.
Well I call BULL SH*T!
What I came away with this morning is that you really have to let go of the time it took you to get here. I have been struggling with “Should I be successful by this point?” The other coaches, even some of my past coaches, feed this fear with the time factor. And it works! I was sold. But they didn’t really help.
It just fed the fear … The fear of what I can actually do!
It was when I took action a year ago … that is when my creative successes started flowing. And yes the next steps seemed like they were always revealing themselves at good timing.
This was not WAS NOT LUCK or because I signed up to be an overnight success. I simply just started! And here’s what I did:
Learned new things. ✅
Pushed myself out of my comfort zone. ✅
I was consistently experimenting. ✅
Failed and probably also FAILED at failing! ✅
Tested the waters. ✅
Said yes to trying new things. ✅
Said no to things that didn’t serve my values. ✅
Kept with what was working. ✅
Evaluated what wasn’t working. ✅
Let good ideas evolve. ✅
So why am I not there yet? What took me so long?
Well it took me TOO LOOOOONG to commit! Commit to what you say?
Doing the work
Taking the action
And I stayed committed with each new movement.
Nurturing the Relationship
It’s a relationship you have to nurture. It will be the relationship that you feel like “saved you” after you broke up with Timing.
This morning flowing through my reflection time, I realized I was getting a “booty call” from that old relationship! One I broke up with a long time ago but seems to come around every now an again just to “check in”.
I get it. It was the idea that “I had time”, that “There’s always tomorrow,”, “It’s not the right timing”, “Why isn’t it here already?”
These are all statements that one says to help ease fears.
But to honestly go where you have never been … you have to commit to things that … you can actually do!
Try to let go of where you thought you should be today so you can get on with where you are suppose to be.
Check in with
• Where you can evolve
• What are your weaknesses?
• Skills or concepts you can explore that will move you forward, even if it’s small
• List the actions that will complement your idea of success?
Check out my vulnerability video on Thriv’s YouTube channel where I talk about this!
Want more? Check out this blog post for inspiration with defining your craft.